All We’re Really Trying to Say

There is a misconception I have noticed among the general population in regards to birth professionals who advocate for the kind of birth outlined in the above photo. How surprised they are when they learn that doulas, childbirth educators, and midwives are actually all for advances in technology and care. We just desire that practice be driven by evidence, not by the shiny new toy.

Let me explain.

I think part of the misunderstanding lies in the belief that because birth professionals outside the medical profession unapologetically share what is scientifically verifiable to be the healthiest norms for mothers and babies, that we are therefore against hospitals/technology, etc. Nothing could be further from the truth!

Speaking for many like myself, what we really desire are two things: 1) True cooperation between hospitals, doctors, and midwives, so that women and their babies get the best, individualized care, and 2) Practices based on the most scientifically sound evidence, rather than the shiniest new toy or convenience for the care provider, or any other reason than the medically verifiable health and well-being of the mother-baby dyad.

Cooperation between the medical establishment and midwifery care isn’t an either-or proposition. Advocating for normal childbirth does not equal opposition to hospitals and all they offer.

Normal birth and all that it implies is a truth with a solid foundation of evidence – nothing more, nothing less. It is not a commentary on any individual woman’s story. It is not a value judgment on the choices made by any woman. Every birth experience is valid, and has inherent value. Every birth is still a miracle. Birth is always sacred and special , no matter how the precious little ones make their appearance.

Every birth is ours, as women, to own and learn from. The planned cesarean is no less valid than the natural home birth so many birth professionals support and love.

Information shared about normal birth is what it is: statements of fact, backed up by evidence, and fueled by an undeniable passion for helping women empower themselves to make truly informed decisions regarding the care of themselves and their babies.

A passion to change the world.

To change the world through loving women and their families, and building bridges of communication between women and their chosen care provider. If we can do those two things, the rest will follow so much more easily than if we tried to force it.

To accomplish the change we are advocating for, we need to speak. Out loud. About unpleasant, but truthful subjects.

And we need to do it all through the filter of love and compassion.

I encourage you to take our words to heart if you can. If it’s too painful – speak out. Find out why it hurts so much to hear about another beautiful home birth. You matter. Your voice matters.

Thanks for hearing me out.

Tiffany

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2 responses to “All We’re Really Trying to Say

  1. Hmmm, I’m sorry you feel I come across as a miidfwe hater Suzanne far from it actually. What I DO hate is the maternity system that exists within out culture, particularly in the UK, mostly as a result from a simple lack of funding. The vast majority of midwives do a very difficult job, doing ridiculous hours, are massively overstretched and have their hands tied during every shift because of the protocols that they have to work within.Most would love to be able to spend time giving quality one-to-one care but the simple fact is this they can’t. And until the day they can, doulas are not a luxury, they are a necessity and I think any woman who plans a hospital birth without one is very very brave.I would give anything to be done out of a job because there was no longer a need for doulas because the NHS suddenly caught on and gave us an extra few thousand midwives. Can’t see it happening And for the record, I have NEVER caused any hostility with a miidfwe and never will that’s the last thing that would ever cross my mind and would go against everything that I believe makes for a better birth.

    • faerylandmom

      Hi – I am wondering what post this comment really belongs on? Your viewpoint is valid, I just don’t see where it’s connected on my site… I look forward to hearing more from you!